I want to that while I am currently a working mama, I shared THIS post about my decision to become a stay-at-home mom in the near future. Through a lot of work, we have made it possible for that to be an option for our family. I felt as if this post needed to be written this week as I prepare to leave the workforce for awhile.
Being a working mama is incredibly challenging.
You have to make the difficult choice to spend your time away from your babies, in order to provide the best life for them. Even though we know it’s what our families need, we end up feeling guilt over the decision. Here are the 21 questions that I, personally, have asked myself at the end of the day.
- Did I spend enough time with her today?
- Does she know I love her?
- Does she like her daycare providers more than me?
- Did I do enough with her?
- Did I teach her enough?
- Was I too distracted?
- Should I keep her up a little longer to play a little more?
- Did I lose my patience too quickly?
- Was I too short with her?
- Am I a good mom?
- Should I have done more?
- It’s already bedtime?
- Is it bedtime yet?
- Where did the night go?
- What if I’m not good enough?
- Should I clean the house?
- Should I keep working?
- Is it worth it?
- Is work/life balance real?
- Am I doing my job well enough?
- Does this struggle get easier?
Now, I don’t generally ask myself this many questions each day, but in the quiet of the night, some of these questions will creep into my mind. When I can’t sleep because I’m thinking of what’s to come tomorrow, a brief thought like this will pop up. Some nights, it knocks me down and makes me feel sad for the hours I missed or guilty for wishing the minutes before bedtime away. Other nights, I can push these feelings back because I know that my daughter is so incredibly loved, safe, happy, and being cared for. The time I spent with her was enough. The things I do for her are enough. I know other moms, working or not, ask themselves questions similar to these each day.
Let me say it loud and clear, YOU ARE DOING ENOUGH.
YOU ARE ENOUGH. Fight those feelings and fall asleep with the knowledge that what you did today was ENOUGH. You may have days when you can do more and you may have days when you can’t. If you’re children know that you love them and they feel safe and secure in your arms, you are doing AMAZING THINGS!
Hug yourself, mama! You’ve got this!